Ode to Ike – Persistence, Positivity, Patience and Presence

Henry Ford Quote

Whether you THINK you CAN or you CAN’T, either way you are RIGHT!!!

My brother was the one that first brought my attention to this quote.  I use it here because it completely describes my grandfather’s approach to life.

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My dear grandpa, Isaac (Ike) Doerksen, finally found a place of peace a few days ago after 103 years of life on this earth.  I don’t believe that there was any part of his life in which he did NOT believe that if he decided to do something, then he would.  The last week of his life was not easy.  As his ability to eat, drink water, and even get up slipped away, my family and I watched this man who had been such a strong figure in our lives slowly decline.  As his physical being lost it’s strength and became a weak shell of what it used to be, I watched in what was nothing less than total amazement as the strength of mind, soul and spirit emanating from him literally infused the entire room.  He didn’t once complain.  When I told him I loved him, he used what he had left to tell me he loved me too.  He often reached for the loving hand of whoever was sitting with him and gave a healthy squeeze.  He displayed such grace right to the end.  And as he did his entire life, he didn’t give up easily.  He simply lived true perseverance as he always had.

During one afternoon as I sat with my dad and my grandpa, my dad shared with me some details of my grandpa’s life that I had not been aware of.  He came into the world at 13 pounds!!!  He was once sick for an entire year, yet pulled through like the trooper that he always was.  At a very young age, he lived through things that I will never experience in my life.  One of the stories that he used to tell me that most sticks in my mind is his account of his family living days at a time without food.  When they finally did get some bread he could barely finish a whole piece, as his stomach was accustomed to not eating. What I didn’t know, and my dad filled me in on, was that his family had to hide in the basement for days given the severity the political situation in Russia, where, as Germans, they resided.  My dad also shared with me that the bread they ate was a result of my grandpa’s father agreeing to help mill the grain that another man had brought so that they could all eat.  This was a huge and dangerous risk they took – but they had no choice but to take it.

When he was barely a teen, his family escaped and made the long journey to Canada.  I can’t even fathom what that would be like.  With a whole slew of barriers in front of him including only a few years of education (meaning about a grade three level), language limitations, and a complete lack of resources, he found a way.  He always found a way to do what he needed to do, to make it.  He was without support at a much younger age than I was.  And I really, truly cannot even imagine what the conditions of his situation had  really been like.  He did whatever work he could find.  He saved up and enrolled in a certification program to become a barber.  When he ran out of money, he still persevered.  He wanted his own shop.  In an extremely saturated market he found a way.  He built a thriving business.  He found decided to do it, and he did.

This little summary is just a piece of all of the things that he persevered through.

Every memory of my grandfather is filled with thoughts positivity, patience and presence. I don’t have a single memory of my grandfather ever saying an unpleasant word or exuding an ounce of negativity.  He used to sing to me:

you are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy when skies are grey, you’ll never know dear how much I love you, oh please don’t take my sunshine away’.

Ike chose sunshine over grey in everything he said and everything he did.  He just said things that made you feel like it would all work out, that you could do it, and that there was a way.  He simply infused the air with a feeling of positivity and happiness.  He decided to do things, to live life, to be!!!

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To quote my favourite band,

‘all we need is a little patience’.

I don’t think I have ever known a more patient person than my grandfather.  He knew how to step back, reflect, and take time to do it right.  He always made me feel like we had all the time in the world!!!  What a gift he gave me to feel that way.  What a gift he had to be able to make people feel that way.

Presence.  Presence is something that many of us dream of being able to feel.  Recently in my life, I have had the amazing opportunity to really learn how to be more present, more often.  I realize now how presence was a way of life for my grandfather.  Whenever I was with him, I felt like he was completely there.  Completely with me, completely in the moment.  The last afternoon I spent alone with my grandfather, we talked, he held my hand, he told me he loved me, and he thanked me for being there.  We listened to music, I sung to him, and I read to him.  I absolutely relished the opportunity to be completely there for him.  To give him the gift of presence that he gave to me so many times in my life.

The day that my grandpa found peace, my husband, James, and I ventured out for a long walk. We were somewhere with good weather, and by the ocean.  We had walked almost 10 km when we found a peaceful place for lunch.  We walked almost another 10 km before finding a place for happy hour.  We could have taken a car at that point to get back to where we were staying.  But James said to me, it’s only about another 7 km.  I thought about this.  My grandpa used to walk and walk and walk.  He would walk through Nose Hill park in our home town of Calgary for hours.  So why shouldn’t we walk another 7 km, I thought to myself.  So off we went.  We were tired, but we declared ‘for Ike!’, and pressed on.

I love you grandpa.

I will forever miss you.

I wish you all the peace and happiness wherever you are.

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Inspiration, Creativity and Community at When Words Collide

 

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Aviva Bel’Harold

A little over a year ago, I wandered into the Chapters store in my neighbourhood.  I was immediately drawn to the vibrant energy of a woman standing by a table, which displayed a number of books.  We exchanged smiles, and she asked if she could tell me about her book.  I though ‘ooooh, an author here in the flesh and blood’!! Of course I jumped at the opportunity to learn more about her and her stories.  I walked away with one of her works, ‘Safe’, which I could not put down once I started reading it!

When I shared with her that I had started to venture into the writing world, she was quick to provide advice and support.  She recommended that I attend When Words Collide, a volunteer driven writing conference.  When I looked it up and read all about it, I could not believe that it was actually a very full three days of non stop sessions for the minimal cost of $55!  Well known and experienced authors would be speaking on all sorts of juicy topics.

I thought to myself, ‘oh my, I think I need to go to this’!  I had no idea what I was really getting into.

Screen Shot 2017-08-13 at 8.43.06 AMI took full advantage of the wealth of information provided by these wise souls.  I plunged myself into as many sessions as I could take until my head was brimming full of information.  Pieces of data were literally spilling out of me.

It doesn’t stop here!

There was no other way I could have received such amazing information anywhere else for this low cost.  There was no other way I could have gotten it directly from the mouths of these wise souls.  Every single one of these presenters was there to give back.  They were volunteering their time and knowledge for the sake of the written (and spoken) word.  They are all so passionate about their art that they just can’t help themselves.  They have to help others.

It still doesn’t stop here!

The entire weekend happens because of a whole team of volunteers Yes! People who absolutely want to make When Words Collide happen year after year.  These people work tirelessly to plan, co-ordinate, communicate, and prep, prep, prep so that the whole thing can happen.  As an attendee, everything was organized to a tee!  If I had any questions at all, any of the volunteers were extremely happy to help me – even though they had a million things to do.

It still doesn’t stop here!

After the conference, I contacted several of the presenters with many different questions.  These people are busy.  They are deep into their own art.  These artists are the most supportive bunch.  They love to help other writers.  Anytime.  No questions asked.  It is truly because of this community that I was able to self publish and launch my book, well before the next conference.

Wow.  This whole experience left me completely and utterly inspired.

One day, I woke up, grabbed my coffee, and sat down in my office.  I came across a call for presenters for the next When Words Collide.  Something came over me.  It was like I wasn’t really in control.  I had this complete wave of inspiration, and decided that I had to give back!!!  At this point, I had executed the self publishing process.   I had learned so much.  I thought of how I had felt when I first attended When Words Collide.

Something in me took over and it was as if I was looking down at myself from outside of my body!  The next thing you knew, I was prepping an outline for a presentation.  As my finger lingered over the ‘send’ button, my heart pounded, and I realized I was sweating.  I was nervous.  How could I possibly think that I knew enough to present to others?  ‘Wait!’, the voice in my head cried out.  What had I learned?  That this community was very supportive and was all about giving back.  Of course I should submit this! They are smart people.  If they look at this and think, ‘oh my, what is this?’, then they will say ‘Thank you, but no thank you’.

I sit here now, with my tea, enjoying the morning birds singing sweetly, and I am reflecting on the presentation that I gave at When Words Collide, just a few days ago.  It was truly another supportive experience.  I had a decent number of attendees (woo hoo!!!), and the content was well received.  Several people came up to me after to declare how helpful it was to them.  Yes!!!  Now I know I have helped!!

Furthermore, the entire conference has been an absolutely amazing experience once again! I took some more sessions to help me in the phase that I am currently in with my first book.  I also attended some sessions that put me out of my comfort zone, and others that were tantalizing and exciting.  I woke up this morning absolutely itching to write!  This experience has left me once again inspired, motivatedand full to the brim with positive, creative, life giving energy!

I also got to thank, in person, some of the writers that have helped me so much, and reinforce for them what an impact they have had on my path.  I picked up some exciting new books (and had them signed, of course).   And, I met some really cool new people!!!

I now have an amazing collection of SIGNED copies of some awesome works!!!!!

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What an experience!!

Thank you to ALL who help make it happen!

Till next year…


 

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When Words Collide 2017

 

Weight Training with Mikey V

I love the look on my face in this picture.  It really sums up my entire experience when I weight trained ‘for real’.  This wasn’t something I was planning on getting into, and it isn’t something that I have done over the years.  It just happened.  And it was an amazing experience in body, mind and soul.  Really.

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It all started when I needed a place to shower so that I could ride my bike to work.  I found the gym that was closest to my office building, and walked in to inquire about membership.

An unexpected opportunity presented itself.  There was a package that I could buy that included some personal training sessions.  Something inside tugged at me to sign up.  So I did.  I didn’t think about it again until the winter months presented themselves.  I had been working out on my own during lunch hour, and was quickly getting bored.  I was really keen to stay in shape through the winter months so I could enjoy the short cycling season when it finally came again.

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Mountain Man

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I met Vern in an office environment.  We were both in the same role, sat close together, and had the habit of arriving early.  Thus, we quickly got to know a little about each other.

Vern was immediately a very interesting person to me.  It quickly became apparent that he was a ‘no nonsense’, get the job done, kind of guy.  I soon learned that Vern had some very interesting life passions.  One of them being to summit mountains on a regular basis. When I first learned of this, I was instantly fascinated.

I have had the amazing opportunity to summit a variety of peaks on my bike.  Vern was a man who summited monstrous beasts by climbing with his hands and feet.  Continue reading “Mountain Man”

Powerful, Intelligent and Strong: Stacey

My secret identity is … yes … I am actually an IT geek.  I know that my writing is all about my bike, my adventures, and my journey.  But, before I started cycling and spending time in the mountains, I was a computer scientist.  This is how I met Stacey.  Stacey is the brilliant leader of the security team at one of the companies that I contracted for.  She was one of my key stakeholders on multiple projects, and thus, I quickly got to know her as an IT professional.  Always strategic, mindful, and very professional, she was one stakeholder that I definitely enjoyed working with.

During our time as work colleagues, I got a glimpse into the many sides of Stacey.  The more I learned, the more I wanted to know.  I quickly came to realize that Stacey is quite the endurance athlete.  I barely had time to train for one sport.  I didn’t know how she balanced a full time professional career, training for three sports, and a family!!!  Yes, it did appear to me that Stacey was some sort of superwoman who did it all.  Yet, when I asked her if she would have time for a coffee as I was wanting to learn more about how she kept her immune system strong, she didn’t hesitate to say yes.

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Fast and Gracious: Mel the Running Rabbit

{Welcome back my feature series on those who have inspired me on my journey.  Today’s post is about one the fastest, most dedicated athletes I know.  And, everyone loves her because she exudes positivity, encouragement and support.  If you missed Strength and Spirit, My Warrior Friend be sure to check it out!!!}

The other day, as I finished one of my regular, moderate runs, I glanced at my running watch to see that I had accomplished about 5 km in about 34 minutes.  Not bad, fairly consistent – I was happy with that.  As I uploaded my data, I browsed around on Facebook, and came across Melissa’s results for the 10 km race she had just finished that morning.  She had reached her goal, a personal best, and a time of 39:10 for 10 km!!!  Wow, I thought.  How does she do that?

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Melissa full of winning attitude

I am constantly thinking how does she do that when it comes to Melissa.  It just seems that she is always accomplishing another amazing win!  She has been most known for her running.  She has been competing at many distances for a long time.  Since I have met her, she has continuously expanded her horizons.  She took on the road racing world with a bang.  With only two seasons under her belt, she has already moved up a category and has multiple podium finishes.  She has taken on cross country skiing with zest, and recently entered the world of cross biking.  The whole time, she is chasing down and challenging her equally speedy husband, Reinier, who is clearly the passion of her life.  During a recent foot injury when she could not bike or run, she focused on swimming – something that she knew nothing about.  She simply looks at something, and does it. Continue reading “Fast and Gracious: Mel the Running Rabbit”

Learning to Ride a Road Bike – An Adventure in Hitting the Ground

I have been road cycling for 13 years now.  It has been an incredible journey.  My bike has literally changed my life.

Before I met my bike (my beloved Trek 2000), I was the most unathletic person ever!!!  I wouldn’t have believed for a second that I was one day going to be riding a fast bike on highways and up to the tops of mountains.  I was completely uncomfortable with my physical being, and afraid of adventure.

Right after I married my husband, James, he bought us road bikes.  It had been a passion of his in his younger years, and he was keen to re-immerse himself.  I really had absolutely no idea what I was getting into.

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